Sorry, Fun-Fems, But Wearing High Heels Is Totally Ableist October 7, 2010Posted by FCM in feminisms, health, pop culture, rape, sorry!, thats mean, trans.
Tags: ableism, disability, high heels, injury, SRS, surgery
this pic just never gets old. okay, yes it does. but its not my fault that its relevant to almost everything i talk about. seriously. i just work here.
i think it was over on the footbinding thread that i was being all ableist. actually, i do it a lot. i did it on the developmentally disabled rapists thread too. i am shameless when it comes to being ableist, mostly because i dont think “ableism” exists. not really. or rather, i dont think that possibly offending minority men is ever a good enough reason not to discuss something that primarily affects women, and not men. like…footbinding, and developmentally disabled rapists. so i talk about them. get over it.
not everyone takes that tack though, and they do care about it. and its to those people i am currently speaking. or…speaking about, behind their backs. thats probably more accurate. although my stats are, like, sky-high and have been for some time, ever since a certain candyass reading-comprehension challenged male womens studies professor linked here about a dozen times, and some of his readers actually followed the links, despite his assertions that all my work was precisely and accurately summed up over at his place. and then those readers stayed. interesting! but i digress.
see, fun-fems think that “ableism” is a problem, and they try to avoid it at all costs. apparently, they frequently feel like they are oppressing each other with their gobs and gobs of (female?) privilege or something, and they bandy many such made-up terms about actually, that have something to do with “privilege” but they arent really sure what, just someone called someone out on it once and now its kinda like leprosy or something. OOPS! i said leprosy. was that ableist? oh well! luckily, i dont care about being ableist. not really. but the fun-fems do. and i think theres something they seriously need to consider.
see, i think its pretty obvious that wearing high heeled shoes is ableist. sorry! but it is. teetering around on sky-high heels that are thoroughly disabling in the moment, making you an easy target for predators and making even the most innocent looking stretch of sidewalk your worst enemy is dangerous, and could get you seriously hurt. thats why its stupid. but its ableist because you get to take them off, when its not fun anymore. okay? its ableist because differently-abled people (notice the gender-neutrality!) are legitimately confounded by innocent-looking stretches of sidewalk all the time. they are actually, in real life, limited or prevented from doing things that they want and need to do, by things like…high curbs. uneven pavement. garbage.
and when you wear high heels, so are you. but you think its fun. and if it ever becomes not-fun, you can just take off your shoes. viola! but not everyone can. and this is kind of a problem, to anyone who actually believes that being ableist is wrong. in fact, this kind of even offends me, and i barely even care about it.
and of course, high-heels are pretty much guaranteed to literally cripple you at some point, where you will need surgery to correct the damage, or will just have to live with being disabled. by your own doing. by your own choice. to teeter around on disabling footwear for years, decades even, being fucking ableist every time you do, and culminating in the most ableist event of all: permanently crippling yourself, when you had the choice not to. woo-hoo! now thats good ableism.
when some people were born with real, actual physical challenges, and have to struggle every fucking day just to get out the door and down the street. or, you know, they cant. and when some others were injured or took ill somewhere along the way, and their health and livelihoods were stolen from them by something they couldnt control.
you can control it, and you are choosing to disable yourself, for fun, AND you claim to care about such things. why is any of this okay with you? this is a serious question.
from there, i guess i would include unnecessary surgeries, including plastic surgery and sex-reassignment surgery too. i mean really. its like some people are so interested in faking their way through life, that they forget what life is about. and one thing life is about is risk. every day you are alive is another day that something seriously bad could happen to you. you might get sick. you might get injured. you might need necessary surgery, to correct something that has gone wrong with you.
because while every “elective” surgery you have could kill you, it doesnt mean that you wont also need necessary surgery too, down the line. one of each, and you are doubling your chances of complications. one of each, and you are doubling your chances of dying under anesthesia, or from a blood clot, or an infection, or medical malpractice, or any number of things that can go wrong with any surgery. and…you dont always die. what more frequently happens, actually, is that you end up living a good long time afterwards, with the disabling effects of surgical complications that dont actually kill you. and you did it on purpose.
also ableist! that is all.