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Rape Culture Birthed the Neovag July 16, 2010

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what is a “vagina” in a rape culture? 

if we were to abbreviate the narrative of rape so that even a rapist of below-average intelligence could understand it (because they all apparently do) i think we would be left with this: men: ejaculate into a womans vagina, and leave.  wouldnt we?  a rapist of ANY INTELLIGENCE understands this.  rapists who are developmentally disabled understand it.  so i think its time that we understand it too.  to a rapist, a vagina is nothing more than a sheath for a dick, and a semen receptacle.  right?  thats all it is.  again: a developmentally disabled rapist could get this right, and does.  (oh no, am i not supposed to talk about developmentally disabled rapists?  is that being ableist?  oh well.)  speaking of made-up words…

thinking that womens vaginas are really just extra-large condoms for mens dicks is a very, very old tradition.  its a problem thats embedded in our language, if that tells you anything.  as has been noted elsewhere, “vagina” literally means “sheath.”  its so embarrassingly obvious a metaphor that even the editors at medterms.com caught on (well kind of):

The word “vagina” is a Latin word meaning “a sheath or scabbard”, a scabbard into which one might slide and sheath a sword. The “sword” in the case of the anatomic vagina was the penis. Love and war, it would seem, have been connected in the minds of people for millennia.

love, you say?  people?  sure.  the millenia part they got right.  this fucked up, reductionist, rape-fantastical thinking about vaginas has been around a long, long time.  but we all knew that already.  enter transpolitics.

as much as transwomen and transactivists love to pretend otherwise, they just dont get what rape culture is all about.  they say they are “against it” to gain feminist cred, but what are they “against” really?  they are against born-men having to use mens toilets when they would prefer to use womens, is about all thats to be gleaned from that discussion.  oh, and something about poor, transwomen of color sex-workers (which NONE of these internet transactivists actually are, and they dont know any either) who are raped and killed by men.  you know, because men thought they were women.  they passed!  which is exactly what the internet transwomen want for themselves.  to pass, i mean.  not to be raped and murdered, by men.  but therein lies the rub, which born-women know all too well.

because the fact of the matter is that unlike born-women, who have everything (literally, everything) to lose from rape culture, transwomen have at least something (everything?) to gain.  to a transwoman, cutting off her dick and turning it (inside out) into a fuckhole between her legs makes her feel better.  from transwomens own mouths, we know that these fake fuckholes alleviate transwomens suffering.  turning their dicks into extra-large condoms for other men to penetrate (or not, whevs…thats my hat-tip to the internet “lesbian transwomen”) actually tamps down their anxiety, and feelings of dysphoria.

but surgical transition of born-men to MTF transsexuals would not exist if every single goddamned man in the world (including transwomen and their doctors too) didnt already believe that vaginas were just fuckholes, for men.  if it werent for rape culture, in which men ejaculate into womens vaginas, and leave.  this, in point of fact, is what transwomen have to gain from rape culture:

i've got wesson-ality!

the neovagina!  so while teh menz are consumed with making everything all about themselves, (as usual!) and taking advantage of rape culture (duh) to make themselves feel better, what noone seems to get (and dont care to) is that born-women are actually passing as MTF transsexuals.  yes, they are.  this is what men see, when they look at us: castrated men with a fuckhole between our legs, who feel more feminine than any born-woman ever does. 

and men theorize from here, when they theorize about us.  doctors treat THIS, when they are treating us.  men are fucking THIS when they are fucking us.  this is what men are raping, when they rape us.  this is what a vagina is, in a rape culture.  this is rape-culture in one fucking frame.  ONE FRAME!  a political cartoonist couldnt abbreviate it any better, or more concisely.

we are passing as them.  hows that for “delicious irony?”  (thats my hat-tip to the fucking internet drama-queens who get off on trite, privileged bullshit such as “irony”).  its so delicious i feel like i just ate a pound of shit, then threw it up, and ate it again.  if i really wanted to give myself heartburn, i would continue on about the narrative of PIV being identical to the narrative of rape (dont believe me?  watch this).  but i will leave well enough alone, for now.

Sorry, Men and Fun-Fems: All Porn Is Rape, All the Time (Or, If You Are Watching Porn, You Are Watching Rape) October 27, 2009

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i have been on the fence for years about whether porn is inherently harmful, or anti-feminist.  the source of my ambivalence, and how i talked myself down from that particular fence are as important to discuss, it seems to me, as is the anti-porn position to which i ultimately committed.

for years, i felt ambivalent about porn.  it didnt really do anything for me, but i was never inclined to agree with either the old-school radfems or misogynist religious proselytizers putting limitations what i should and shouldnt watch, or enjoy.  i think my problem was a common problem for young women and young feminists:  i was letting men and the male-identified fun-fems define feminism for me, and i was too young and uneducated to really analyze what i was seeing.  not unimportantly, i was afraid of a radical feminist analysis, and what that would mean for me, should i decide i was anti-porn, as a young female, a sister and daughter (of white men), as a heterosexual, and most recently, as a professional in a male-dominated field.  instinctively and intellectually i knew that coming down on the side of anti-porn would cause a problem for me.  i am not a fucking idiot, afterall.  most feminists arent.

i was also screwing up my analysis, in that i was giving too much credence to my own “feelings” about what i saw, and knew, about porn, and consumers of porn, having watched it myself, and dated men who ran the gamut between being literally and problematically “addicted” and “meh” when it came to using and possessing the stuff.  i wrongly believed that my ambivalent feelings were somehow neutral, and unaffected by the culture i lived in–a culture that fully embraces not just porn but rape, too.  i think that too is a common problem for feminists:  an objective analysis that comes down on the side of anti-porn is at odds with how some of us feel, subjectively, about watching it.  in other words, watching other people fuck doesnt necessarily bother me.  i just didnt get that visceral “yuck” feeling like so many feminist women and religious zealots alike claim to get when watching, talking about, or analyzing porn.  and i wrongly assumed that having done some rudimentary analysis and come to a conclusion, that i had done my due diligence, and that i was done.

but for all thinking people, and all feminists, its the objective analysis, not our subjective feelings that takes us into the weeds.  considering that a misogynist rape-culture is the backdrop against which we all live, and against which we conduct all of our daily transactions, we would be right more often that not, if we embraced this credo: our subjective selves are not “us”.  we literally cannot trust our own feelings on this issue, although our feelings are not completely irrelevant.  pro-porn or even ambivalent sentiments are part of living in a rape- and porn-culture, but thats not terminal to a feminist analysis of porn.  at the same time we live in a porn- and rape-culture, we also live in a puritanical and slut-shaming one.  we need to know, objectively, what is informing our opinions, no matter on which side we ultimately land.

what i came up with is this.  you dont have to be skeeved out by porn, to be an anti-pornography feminist. you can be anti-porn FIRST.  in my experience, the ick-factor followed closely behind, once i realized what i was looking at, and talking and thinking about, when i was looking at or analyzing porn.  for reasons i will more fully explain below, it was my objective analysis of the concept of consent that lead me to the conclusion that porn is rape.  to be clear:  i did not use an objective analysis to explain, explore, or justify my preexisting, subjective revulsion to porn.  this is an important point, particularly against the anti-feminist barrage that women and feminists encounter daily, by men who are only too eager to dismiss women and feminists for being overly-emotional about every subject that affects us (as if responding emotionally to emotionally-charged subject matter is ever inappropriate).  despite my ambivalence, i performed an objective analysis of porn from the perspective of consent versus non-consent, and i came to believe that its objectively, inherently harmful, and anti-feminist.  that is, when i realized, objectively, that what i was looking at was rape, i began to feel revolted.  so, while i could have done this sooner, even before the revulsion kicked in, its time, now, to get down off the fence, and get real.  the answer to the question, i believe, is YES.  porn is both inherently harmful, and anti-feminist.  furthermore, i believe that all porn is rape, all the time.  heres why.

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365 Days of Working Out…Turns a Normal Looking Guy Into a Giant Douche September 15, 2009

Posted by FCM in entertainment, gender roles, health, rape, thats mean, WTF?.
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this is a time-lapse video of a normal-looking guy who decided he needed to improve his “physique.” he ends up also being less hairy, tanner, and basically looking like a giant douche.

why do people do this to themselves? i have been reading some fat-positive blogs lately and the thing thats stuck with me is that fat does not equal unhealthy, and actually tends to protect you from some things.  and being thin, if you are eating crap and sedentary, is even worse that being fat. 

but we automatically inquire about — and congratulate — people when they appear to have lost weight, dont we?  for fucks sake!  what if they just got over being ill?  what if they are suffering from wasting from chemo?  thinness isnt always an intentional (or a celebratory) state, and some people are just so naturally thin that they feel like freaks, too.  people tell them to “eat something” and its supposed to be a “compliment” or a joke.  but to anyone thats ever been “too thin,”  any body- or weight-related attention is as offensive as telling someone who is fat to “back away from the doughnut.”  mind your own fucking business.  whether i can or cannot fill out the ass in a pair of jeans is entirely not.  your.  concern.

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