On Doodbros And Neovags, And Becoming More Rad By The Day February 28, 2010Posted by FCM in feminisms, health, international, kids, liberal dickwads, meta, PIV, pop culture, porn, rape, trans.
Tags: PIV, radical feminism, rape
my perspective has changed, drastically, in the last few months. everything is different now, and i wanted to share it here because its happened largely within, and because of, these posts, links, and discussions. reading over this material, including the comments and disussions with my readers, i can see it happening. its documented, and thats very interesting to me. i figured it might be to you, too. i also mention it here because these shifts in consciousness are rare. which makes them precious. if this sounds dramatic, it is. and, its not. “precious” about covers it, in the most banal of ways. it just doesnt happen that often.
in a nutshell, i have gone from a “recovering fun-fem” to a straight, radical feminist. heres whats different:
when i am out and about during the day, i think i am *seeing* women, for the first time. i am seeing them and i know that they have vaginas, and uterii, and ovaries, and fallopian tubes, and that these things have profoundly influenced the way they have been treated, since the day they were born. for what i think is the first time in my life, i realize that women arent fucktoys, for men. i dont think i ever really got that before, as difficult as that is for me to believe, or to say. i never really got that vaginas arent just “holes.” i get it now. and i have to say, its changed everything.
now, when i am out and about, i look at men differently. i see them as a group, and not as individuals anymore. because i know that their shared experience as males makes them members of a bizarre club, and that their realities arent real. and i know that most men i see on a daily basis, all of them over age 13 or so, have probably been having PIV-sex with girls and women. and it fucking makes me sick. it really does. to know that these little bastards are putting women and girls at risk for STDs and pregnancy, without giving it a moments thought as to how vaginal intercourse is problematic for us, but not for them is pretty much my limit, as far as these things go. now that i know that mens concept of “consent” is so fucked up as to include most acts of rape too, i cant un-know it. now that i am seeing it for what it really is, i have to tune some of it out. its literally too much information.
when i was in high school, one of my friends was *in love* with this guy. in typical high school fashion, she talked about that, and about him, with his friends (and hers) more than she spoke about it with him. this guy was a total player. his guyfriends told her that this was no big deal, because “the guy needs to get his dick wet once in a awhile.” at the time, i didnt really get the implications of that, but now i do. men think that having PIV-sex with women is literally no more than getting their dicks wet. that there arent any consequences to it, at all. that womens vaginas are just a warm washcloth, and that by definition, women arent really people. because, you know, human beings are made of tissue and organs, not cotton.
and of course, knowing all this makes me very aware that i will no longer have anything to do with men, if i can help it. that means that the relationship i am in now will be the last one i ever have, with a man. which is oddly freeing. because women are really in a dill of a pickle, once they realize they are radical feminists. that fun-feminism is for the fucking birds strictly about accommodating men, and about normalizing mens misogyny, and their vested interest in, and commodification of, rape, and thats all it is. when straight feminists realize, finally, that men as a group are fucked up beyond repair, and that men have a vested interest in rape culture that isnt going away, and wont in my lifetime, there is no more fun-feminism. and there are no more men. theres no more “what man would put up with my radical views?” because even the so-called lefty progressive men would never tolerate it. even if they wanted to understand it (and most of them dont).
after one denounces fun-feminism, there is only “i no longer desire to please, or to be pleasing to, men.” thats what is left, when a straight feminist becomes radical.
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