I Am So Passive, That I Literally Wouldn’t Mind If You Murdered Me. Really! I’m Okay With It. August 19, 2010Posted by FCM in entertainment, health, liberal dickwads, pop culture, sorry!, WTF?.
Tags: domestic violence, eminem, love the way you lie, male violence, murder, music, rihanna
i posted this in the “woman hating part 2” comments, but i thought it deserved its own post. its not because i really hate eminem in particular, or that i am in the mood to dissect media portrayals of domestic male violence. really, i dont, and i’m not. its that this song has literally been haunting me for a week, and i cant stop thinking about it. in short, i am trying to pass this earworm onto you all…and spreading the pain around. sorry!
i first heard this song in the car, without the video images. i pretty quickly figured out it was eminem, waxing poetic about domestic male violence. not exactly surprising, whatever. the womans voice i didnt recognize (its rihanna, for anyone who has been living in a cave even darker and deeper than mine apparently is). but theres a line towards the end of the song where old em says that if she tries to leave him again, hes going to tie her to the bed and burn the house down.
i am not kidding you, this line just absolutely punched me in the face. it really fucking did. and it might be more sick and hateful than anything ive subjected myself to lately, but i dont think thats what was so horrible and shocking about it. this line doesnt come until the end of the song, but the woman’s voice has been saying “stand there and watch me burn; thats alright, because i like the way it hurts” the whole fucking time. its at this point that we realize that its LITERAL, and that she really wants him to murder her. or at least, she wouldnt mind. really! its ok, dont worry about it.
i have never heard a more passive portrayal of a woman, i dont think. have you? *is* there anything more passive, than someone who literally wouldnt mind if you killed them? if there is, i cant think of it.
and disturbingly, according to the female voice, she also likes his LIES. i dont know if any of you have ever been in a relationship with an addict or a compulsive liar, but i have, and its the lies that make you crazy, absolutely batshit crazy, probably more so than anything else. and here we have a womans voice the whole time saying not only that she likes him lying to her, but that she LOVES it! women love crazy-making too! oh yeah bring on the prozac and the funny farm, cause we LOOOOOVE that the most.
of course, the fact that its rihanna singing the female part added a whole new dimension of fucked up-ness to it, once i found out. i dont know why they used megan fox and the little dude from the hobbit (is that him??) i mean, why not just have rihanna and chris brown play the abusive couple male batterer and his victim. now that would be hawt. and rihanna herself is taking some shit for participating in this, because since chris brown beat her senseless, she is supposed to be “taking a hard line” against “domestic violence” now. which apparently means that “domestic violence” (can i stop doing this now?) victims cant make a living in the music industry anymore, but ABUSERS can. oh the shit just keeps going and going on this one doesnt it?
and i might be the only person on planet earth (seriously) who hadnt seen the video first. but the song, without the images, was fucking haunting. the womans voice saying she LOVES it, that its all okay, even him murdering her was okay with her fucking ripped me to my core. it really did. but when i watched the video…well it was all very sexy wasnt it? YAY PIV! yay volatile relationships! yay skinny white kids. yay playing house.
and…well the GUY is on fire, in the end. yes, HE is being burned alive by…his passion? while she is being tied to a bed and burned alive, for real. mens emotional pain inflicted on themselves through their own crazy-making obsessiveness and violence, is the same thing as womens physical pain, inflicted on women by men. its THE SAME THING. its JUST AS BAD. it hurts JUST AS MUCH.
oh sure it does.