Men Hate It When Women Remember December 2, 2010Posted by FCM in books!, feminisms, health, international, PIV, politics, pop culture.
Tags: frigidity, history, male sexologists, PIV, sheila jeffreys, the spinster and her enemies
this moron reality seems to have another part to it doesnt it? story 1 and story 2 are playing all the time, and one is real, and the other isnt. but women also arent supposed to remember anything. and at the same time, we are also supposed to have the reasoning skills of very young children, who because of childrens inexperience and not-yet-fully-formed brains fail to grasp the importance of motivation, or the fact that people have agendas. these both seem key dont they? incidentally, who else is completely ignorant of history, and motivation? its almost…or, exactly…as if the perfect (or perfectly compliant) woman is one with a head injury.
regarding memory, when women remember what other men have done, they are bitter. when a woman remembers what her current partner did in the past, even if it was just last week, she is being mean. oh noes! not teh terrible meanness! and thats just the stuff we have experienced firsthand.
when it comes to realizing and remembering and getting, really getting, what men as a sexual class have done to women as a sexual class, even within our lifetimes and in our own cultures, we are all supposed to be blind, deaf, and suffering from amnesia. and illiteracy apparently. because the very last thing we are supposed to do, i guess, is read actual books, written by radical feminists. books! its like…a secret treasure trove of knowledge, that exists to disprove just about everything the third-wave and allegedly-feminist men believe is true. only, its not really a secret as much as we just arent supposed to know about it, even though its right there. do they think we are stupid or something? this is not a rhetorical question.
for example…the first “sexual revolution” in the 1920s was an anti-feminist backlash, created in direct response to womens increasing economic opportunities in the west, and feminists work against PIV-centric sexuality and the sexual abuse of women and children, by men. this is documented. and male sexologists (sexologists! since when does engaging in something and liking it, qualify anyone as an -ologist? they were more like PIV-ologists anyway, or perhaps euphemism-ologists) who arrived on that scene at that exact moment in time, had an agenda. DUH. male sexologists had an agenda. most people, and groups of people do. some agendas are legit, others arent.
in figuring out how the world works from the perspective of a fucking adult, recognizing motivation is a very preliminary step actually, but women arent supposed to figure this out, ever. along with remembering and acknowledging that everything has a history, adult humans who are capable of rational thought also realize that something motivates every person, and every group of people, all the time. and that people, perhaps especially men, dont normally do things that are against their own best interest, out of the goodness of their hearts. this is really basic.
anyone who doesnt get that by now needs to pull on their big-girl pants, and get real. once you have a handle on that, then things like this arent as difficult to believe:
from the chapter on “the invention of the frigid woman” in jeffreys “the spinster and her enemies.” see? the idea of “enthusiastic consent” is not new. it was invented over a hundred years ago, to solidify the primacy of marriage and the het relationship, just when women were first able to do without men, and without the mandatory PIV that follows all heterosexual men around like their fucking shadow. and because men were used to paying prostitutes for fake enthusiasm and fake orgasms, and they felt that fake orgasms were lacking with their wives, who only put up with PIV, historically, because they had to. what upperclass wives never had to do, before the sex reformers of the 1920s got ahold of them, is to like it. or, you know, to pretend like they did.
meanwhile, feminists work in lessening PIV-centric sexuality, including the sexual abuse of women and girls, failed. and something else won out, instead. this “something else” is what passed as a sexual revolution in the 1920s. and it passed again, in the 1960s. and its passing YET AGAIN, for the third fucking time, now. how many times is this going to play out? how long will it be, before women remember, and before they learn to recognize and acknowledge motivation, and do something with that information?
i get that there are competing interests here, and there are many forces that, acting in concert, motivate women to not see the truth about men. fine. just dont call it feminist, is all i ask. its acting as if you have a fucking head injury, as a survival mechanism. thats all it is.