A Continuum of Woman-Hatred. Or, What “Flavor” Is Your Misogyny? December 24, 2010Posted by FCM in feminisms, health, international, PIV, porn, rape.
Tags: heterosexuality, misogyny, PIV
this was inspired by 9/2’s most recent and most-excellent takedown of porn. she mentioned how so-called “feminist porn” is so elusive, and it got me to thinking…WHAT IF…
if PIV (or PIV-as-pleasure for the “what about teh babiez” crowd) itself is woman-hating, and i think there is an excellent argument that it is (because its specifically and particularly dangerous to women and not to men) then PIV-centric sexuality and therefore heterosexuality itself as we currently know it exist on a continuum of woman-hating. i think we all know what madness lies at the far end of the continuum (rape-murder…and deaths resulting from unwanted pregnancy) but what lies in between just good old-fashioned “vanilla” PIV (what flavor is *your* woman-hate? mine is strawberry! well it used to be, currently i am off the sauce) and the intentional and sexualized extermination of girls and women, by men?
welp…all PIV-centric porn would lie on this continuum, for starters. and this would, in fact, explain a lot. it would explain why so-called “feminist porn” is so elusive (because it doesnt exist, because nothing feminist exists on a continuum of woman-hate. duh.) it would explain why PIV and rape are nearly indistinguishable in so many instances: where does each lie on the continuum? an inch apart? half an inch? two full inches? color me unimpressed with *that* alleged difference…kinda like the difference between night and…still night. it would also explain why just run-of-the-mill heterosexual fucking (and porn) has become more and more degrading to women over time, and more and more violent, but is still considered “just sex.”
heterosexual “sex” as a continuum of woman-hate would explain why even the united states supreme court has historically had a difficult time articulating any real difference between “mere” porn and material that is so vile and without redeeming value that it is illegally obscene. it would explain why marriage and in fact het partnerships in general resemble prostitution, and why the fun-fems and PIV-pozzies framing all of these issues in terms of “consent” and “agency” are chasing their tails, and why their entire discourse absolutely smacks of double and triple-think. wouldnt it?
in fact…in the interest of time, i propose that we start with the assumption that everything exists on a continuum of woman-hatred, and see if things fall into place. i mean really. whats the sense of resisting this at all, when its probably the truth, and its the short-way around, at that? are we afraid of hurting mens feelings? please. IF ONLY any of this were about “feelings” instead of actual, demonstrable harm, it would make me SO. HAPPY. but i digress.
with specific regard to “sex” and PIV-as-pleasure, i think the continuum framework is clearly applicable. it starts with a man sticking his dick into a vagina because it feeeeels good (to him), and ends in the literal (LITERAL!) death of hundreds of thousands of women annually, now, and millions (billions?) of women across time and place.
so. where does *your* heterosexuality fall on the continuum? where does your favorite memory of the best “sex” you ever had, fall on the continuum of woman-hate? this is why i can barely even masturbate anymore. my own memories of 20-something years of heterosexual fucking, material i used to invoke as a masturbatory aid, are horrifying to me now. and again, the idea of PIV-centric sexuality existing only on a continuum of woman-hate explains a lot. it also seems to be demonstrably true, for anyone who thinks this is just a mental exercise, or a faith-based discourse. its not.