Because It’s Unconscionable Bullshit Gaslighting. That’s Why. December 21, 2014Posted by FCM in meta, news you can use, politics.
Tags: meta, radfem blogging, sonia johnson
sonia johnson asked and explored the question, why do women almost universally reject feminism and feminist activating in discussing her involvement with ERA legislation politicking in one of her books. she and many feminists had long pondered, when feminism is in womens best interests, and is in fact the only ideology that adequately represents the interests of women across time and place, why is it so
difficult impossible to get women on board? and interestingly, when women do come together to do something great, it almost always doesnt last. why/why not?
johnson concluded that women almost universally reject feminism and feminist activating because its worse than pointless: feminist activating is actually making things worse. women pouring their time and resources into reformist (foreground) pursuits-that-are-bound-to-fail-because-patriarchy actually energizes, motivates and activates men, who vampirically feed off female energy, and besides that, men like things the way they are. many, many women know this is true at a feeling/intuitive level and they shy away from feminism and feminist activating because they know it wont work.
i would also add that feminist activating is unlikely to help, and likely to make things worse because men love watching women writhe and suffer because they are men. in other words, feminist politicking is in reality a sophisticated form of torture whereby males purposely withhold necessary
social changes palliative care for women and gleefully observe the fallout with their dicks in their hands. males get off on it because it is torture. this is obviously the case. and women almost universally reject this, whether by instinct (and they do not get involved in the first place) or later, experienced radical women come to reject radical feminism because they know better.
furthermore, because radical feminist activating is based on the premise that males can and will respond to females without violence (isnt it?), against all evidence that this is in fact true, radical feminist activating is also unconscionable gaslighting.
thus, we have the public face of “radical feminism” which seems to consist largely or entirely of women who either do not possess or are ignoring instincts that it is pointless or worse than pointless; and women who simply have not done it long enough to know better. aka. the nuts leave. there are also power jockeys, drama junkies and ass-kissing hangers on, as there are in any movement, but i am not talking about them — if this was an enormous problem, there would be plenty of radfems to go around. the place would be crawling with “us” in fact, if there were anything at all to be gained from this, even squikky political leftovers like networking and career ops but its not.
if this sounds like a fairly motley crew, well, i think it obviously is. and, if anyone thinks most women will willingly spend their time this way, when women have so little time, energy and resources to spend any way, they (obviously) wont. women almost universally will not do this, or they wont do it for long, because it is unconscionable gaslighting, and thus is abusive and bullshit. and women who sucker other women into this, or who tell other women to “keep going” and “never stop” doing radical feminism and repetitiously making pointless fucking points are abusive. or something. there are no words for this.
women will not spend their time and lives this way, and i personally have rejected it, yet, every single day i witness man-ifestations of patriarchy that nearly beggar belief (and virtually beg for a response). every single day i could write a thousand posts (or as many as i could physically write) and start an entirely new blog based on an original idea (like celebrating examples of male violence against other men — yay!) but i dont because it would only deplete me, and there would be no point. yesterday it was the sony/north korea “thing” whereby the hollywood, corporate and washington patriarchal elite in unison denounced “silencing” and reaffirmed their (alleged) belief in speaking truth to power, and not being bullied, terrorized and brutalized into submission. but again, this is all gaslighting bullshit. women do not share this world, nor will we ever. it is beyond ridiculous to even point it out/respond to it, and the only reason i am even mentioning it now is to illustrate a point — it never fucking ends, and it will never end, this is but one example of literally endless examples. get it?
i also mention it as a lead-in to what may well be my final point, because it is *the* final point. or endpoint, if you will.
besides what sonia johnson wrote about her experience, i have never seen it written anywhere that radical feminism is gaslighting bullshit, and worse than a waste of time. i have never seen it written that women who pressure other women to join or to keep going with radical feminist activating are being abusive and that it is gaslighting because it implies that men will respond to women without violence, when thats simply and obviously not true. so *i* am going to say it. it is, and they are. radical feminism is gaslighting bullshit. and it is my sincerest hope that no woman will waste months and years of her life figuring this out, only to figure it out too late — after she has been made sick and broken by it. and this does happen.
andrea dworkin, shulamith firestone and valerie solanas — some of our best and most radical thinkers who mostly did not lie for a living (like the academics did and still do) and who instead told the unvarnished truth about men and what they are and what they do — all died early deaths after years of poor health, and i have to wonder why that was. that is to say, i have wondered about it, and having done this “work” for several lifetimes now (several internet lifetimes that is, where most blogs only last 2-3 months before they fail, and i maintained several blogs for several years) i think i can answer my own question. which is what this is about afterall, for women who cannot reconcile their
subjective feelings female selves with patriarchy, we need to know why things are the way they are. i always needed to know.
welp. i now believe that radical feminism probably killed them. and if it did, it means that gaslighting and being abused and gaslighted by “radical” and even well-meaning women, and purposely and callously tortured by men (of course), can actually kill you. kill, as in drain the life out of, and die. i think this is not only possible, but that it has actually happened. and i think we ought to not let this happen to any more of us, and that we each should make sure this does not happen to us individually. which is the only way we can do it by the way. there is no other way except that.
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